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As parents, are you trying to control your child's outcome?

It is common for parents to have certain expectations or desires for their child outcomes. This desire to control the outcome often stems from a well-meaning place, as parents naturally want the best for their children and wish to protect them from harm or ensure their success. However, it's important to strike a balance between guiding and supporting children while also allowing them to develop their own identities, make choices, and learn from their experiences.

Here are some:

  1. Imposing Strict Expectations: Parents may set rigid expectations regarding their child's academic performance, career choices, or extracurricular activities. They may believe that their chosen path is the only way to success and push their children to conform to those expectations.

  2. Micromanaging: Some parents may excessively intervene in their child's activities, constantly overseeing and directing their every move. This can restrict the child's autonomy and prevent them from developing independent decision-making skills.

  3. Overprotection: Parents may have a strong desire to shield their children from any potential harm or failure. They may try to control their child's environment, interactions, and experiences to ensure safety, but this can hinder the child's ability to learn and grow from their own mistakes.

  4. Comparison and Competition: Parents may compare their child to others and constantly seek validation or superiority based on their child's achievements. This can create a stressful environment and put undue pressure on the child to meet unrealistic standards.

  5. Living Through Their Children: Some parents may project their unfulfilled dreams and desires onto their children, pressuring them to pursue activities or goals that align with the parents' own aspirations.

Every child is unique, and their path to success and happiness may not align with your own expectations. By embracing their individuality, supporting their growth, and fostering a healthy parent-child relationship, you can help them develop into confident, resilient, and self-reliant individuals.

-Satrangi Gurukul

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